I have a diverse dating resume. I have never limited myself to only dating my own race. I have dated white men, black men, and Hispanic men. My ideal man is tall, dark, and handsome though. I love the smooth chocolate velvetiness of a black man’s skin and their physique. Regardless of skin color, I am attracted to a confident man with a wicked sense of humor.

I was married to a white man for 5 1/2 years. He was not my type physically, but his humor and personality kept me captivated long after the sexual attraction died. Eventually, there was no saving the marriage. We divorced. I was devastated because I did stand before God, family, and friends and took my marriage vows seriously. It was hard to accept that my forever turned out to be a little more than 5 years.

Since my divorce, I have had a few serious relationships. Each one was better that the last. I am grateful for the love followed by the heartache, because it caused me to grow. I now have a mature understanding of myself; what I need from a relationship, and what I need to bring to sustain a lasting partnership. It all boils down to me wanting a best friend in a life partner.

Earlier this year, my search for a soul mate prompted me to join Match.com. Again, I never discriminate against race. I dated men that I found intriguing and attractive. Turns out, I was pretty popular. For me though, there were a small few that stood out. One by one, even the standouts were eliminated.

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